No doubt you’ve begun the year with resolutions, goals, to-do list items for your career, hobbies, relationship status, finances and your health. Perhaps you are already buried in them, feeling overwhelmed, or maybe you are still in the ‘motivated’ and ‘excited’ phase.
Either way, take a moment to pause and reflect on the way we go about setting these annual targets, there might just be a more-conscious, satisfying way of living your life in 2012.
Note how often you prefix the idea of your potential achievements for the coming year with “I.”
I will earn $X thousands of dollars.
I will get the ideal BF/GF this year.
I will take up golf, surfing, dance, a new language, etc.
All too often these targets are mental constructs that are typically ego-driven. They come from the mind. They are rationalizations designed to make us think our way to happiness, but, if you look back over the past 5 years, you will quickly notice that achieving your aim or New Years resolution didn’t always bring you the happiness you anticipated.
Setting goals often creates more suffering. We beat ourselves up when we don’t achieve them. We get anxious, obsessed, overburdened and overwhelmed at the idea of making them happen, and, when we are dead set, 100% focused on getting what we want we often miss the very thing that is going to bring us real happiness.
You see, more often than not when it comes to goal setting, or establishing New Years resolutions we aren’t coming from our hearts and souls, we are strategising from the head!
So, rather than writing your To-Do list for 2012, try tapping in to the power of your heart and soul by writing a Bliss list. What’s a Bliss list I hear you cry? Well, quite simply, it’s the things that put a smile on your face, the activities that bring you joy, the interests that make you feel the most alive, inspired, present, lost in time, and connected to the divine. It’s not about “tasks,” “goals,” or “achievements,” it’s about spending the year exploring a mindset, by being in a state of play, connecting to your heart and doing mostly what you love.
I’ll give you an example.
Some of the items on my Bliss List for 2012 are:
- Helping others with the knowledge and lessons I’ve learned from my own studies and life experiences.
- Laughing, learning, sharing fabulous food and adventures with family and friends.
- Lying in the sun with a good book and my husband and dogs by my side.
- Creating books/stories/art that inspires, raises awareness and provides opportunities for healing and growth.
- Drawing, designing, turning something old into something new.
- Being in Bhakti, through yoga, dance and singing.
- Maintaining an abundant mindset.
- Listening to my intuition.
This doesn’t mean you won’t get anything done or that you’ll never achieve anything specific. Quite the opposite, in fact. I’ve found that by focusing more on living in a state of bliss that magic happens.
By being open, aware, available for inspiration, synchronicity, co-incidence, creation and guidance that is what you receive. The rest falls into place. You meet the right person. The money shows up. The inspiration to improve your health arrives. The passion to carry you through to complete your project thrives.
Life becomes more about the living than the achieving.
You also find that you spend an awful lot more of your time just being happy and a lot less time suffering.
And, if needs be, go delete or rip up your overwhelming list of To-Do’s. I bet you’ll feel relieved!